A shrug of shoulders represents ignorance of an offer of friendliness and its dismissal as one of little consequence. While one can stoop to low, evasive tactics there is little or no sympathy for the errant person. Even while there could be reasons for the manifest body language, no excuses can be entertained. Therefore, it is only right that one’s sentiments are respected and a way found to settle differences. For no one can have a kind word for such a conduct even if the conditions warrant it.
It is gross stupidity to make a mockery of an advance in a right and kindred spirit. Let alone the effect in hurt and jaded feelings. Something has to be done about the situation, but this does not mean one should engage in frivolous and churlish acts. It rather calls for a snap decision to cut off contacts in a no-nonsense act.
In any event, meting out cold treatment could bring about a downright hostile response. This challenges the assumption that one is correct, aboveboard and doing the right thing. It is a demonstration of bad behavior even though nothing has been said by way of a verbal objection. As such, this calls for internal evaluation.
Giving cold shoulder could have an opposite effect to the one intended—not the least a show of contempt by the responder. Perhaps one could try and be mellower, less harsh and not give into impulse. But this is seldom the case and the moment lingers to cut off communication.
This is not indifference but being rude and objectionable. There is a feeling here of having a part to play in a union. And of letting any snub to be perceived as such. Nothing can come of a relation that does not take into account a measure of such bad behavior.
But then this expression of rancor can demean and shut off all conduits of emotions. This emotive drive is particularly strong in the one who is calling the shots without going off the deep end. At this point the one who is offended goes into a sulk and retreats. It takes a lot of coaxing to get him engaged again.
On the other hand it is best to avoid a sending-off and instead stand firm without giving in. Any action in this connection comes about only as a face-saving gesture. This is coming full circle to what has been done on one pretext or the other. Only then will there be a relief of sorts and a chance to be sorry for the whole charade.
But in the final analysis the perpetrator can be said to have done something not exactly in tune, conformity and in keeping with the situation, so one is easily misled. It is right and proper not to solicit any more favors and let bygones be bygones. Furthermore, it is also possible not to initiate a dialogue or prompt one to take action in view of the situation.
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