- Sweety
Who knows? May be we are just getting very organized as a society – each month has a specific agenda. May be our lives are becoming fragmented in rows and columns and unless it is that time of the year, we don’t feel the urgency to be in love. May be guys are idiots or may be so smart that they are carefully calibrating the chances that their proposals will be accepted around the V-Day versus any other day in the year. I am sure some one has done a PhD to figure this global trend. But the question is not how many, when and why are they proposing. The question is – are you in love? Is there anyone out there who makes your heart stop? And has “he” proposed yet? Being in love and being loved back is a blessing. And sometimes love starts with a feisty encounter, a casual conversation, at the first sight, or after the sleaziest February proposal on the cheesiest V-date. If out of all these random, there is some one who feels like “the one”, let someone else do the PhD while you indulge in your blessings.
I think I am depressed but I don’t want to see a doctor. How can I confirm if or not I have depression?
- Depressed
If you think you have depression, the first thing I want to remind you is that the rest of your life doesn’t have to be sad – cure is possible. Once people are chronically depressed, I‘ve realized, that the body gets “addicted” to depression and refuses to seek treatment – making it difficult for friends and family to find help and treatment. Thus, the sooner you seek help, the better. You should be able to look online for persistent symptoms but those don’t guarantee you accurate diagnosis. Almost one in 10 people have depression. There is no harm in seeing a doctor who can diagnose the severity of your condition. Once you know, you can make informed choices – take medication, or practice yoga and meditation or change to a healthier life style. Choice will always be yours but you have to find out first.
I heard my boyfriend talk to his friends about “guy stuff’ and I can’t stop thinking of it and it’s actually freaking me out. How can I get rid of this thinking?
- Namrata
Every time I call my sister who is in U.S., my husband gets really frustrated. Every single time, the two us of talk about the same thing over and over again – how my nephew when 5-years-old pooped all over the house, what an ordeal it was to try and pull his tooth out and how he said “tomodder” when he wanted to say “tomorrow”. We ladies freak our guys enough with our “girl stuff”. Perhaps, guys should get their fair share? However, if what you heard hints on his inability to be in a respectful and meaningful relationship with you, then that’s concerning. Otherwise, every time you find yourself troubled by those thoughts, just think about the numerous opportunities you’ll have to agonize him during your long shopping sprees and girl talk on phones. And if you guys get married, oh! I promise you, there will be countless opportunities for revenge!
I’m 26 and I still don’t have a job. I read newspapers all morning and roam around the rest of the day or just sleep. I applied for jobs, but I haven’t received any replies. My moral is super low. I don’t know what to do anymore. How can I kick start my life again?
- Bhuwan
Newton said, “Objects continue to remain in a state of motion or in a state of rest until and unless an external force is applied”. I don’t know if Newton knew that his law of motion actually applies to people too. If you are feeling low, you will continue to stay low until you apply an external force. So, find your motion! Run or bicycle in the mornings but get your body into real motion. Then get your mind in motion; maybe you can volunteer or take small paid assignments. Get your intellect in motion – go to talk programs, exhibitions and talk to people. You will soon realize that your low moral is the bigger obstacle in finding a job than what’s on your CV. A changed attitude and a new found momentum in life would help you get a job and also a more fulfilling life.
Swastika Shrestha is the founder of Anuvuti – a social enterprise that engages young people in service-learning. She’s been coaching and mentoring young people in different capacities for over a decad
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